My boyfriend and I have been together for the last 5 years. Our relationship began since our college days and continued on. Things aren’t the same anymore now. Even though we are in the same place, we hardly meet and that too when we both have common friends making a plan to go out. All our phone calls seem to be a formality.
It was a wonderful relationship we had during the college days, I do like him a lot but it’s not working out for both of us and I feel strangled in this relationship.
Do you think I am being too selfish? It’s been 5 years to our relationship and it feels wrong to do anything that breaks it. What should I do?
Dear Confused Soul,
First, I want to tell you a very simple fact. When you are in college, you are still in an immature age. You disregard everything else just for love because life at the moment is all about having fun in this age. With time grows your sense of thinking, you mature and start thinking about life seriously, what you wish to do with it and with whom.
Your college days are over and now you are thinking about your long term plans in life. This is nothing to be ashamed of. Ask yourself if he is the one you wish to spend the rest of your life with.
If you are both avoiding each other and rarely talk like real couples in love do, I would suggest that you meet him and talk it out. Be frank and be polite. Let him know that you like him but point towards the relationship you had once and the one you have now.
If you both agree to having the same relationship you had once, you will both start working it out otherwise you will both have a happy understanding and a decision you will both have made together with each other’s consent.