Here are a few things I consider should be important for your relationship.Before I begin this is just my analysis on relationships.Please use your own discretion while using any of the following, depending upon the situation you have fallen into.
Also many of the following can be helpful to the guys as well, but I am going to specific it to young women in relationship.
1) Had A fight with him AND You Are At Fault:
If you had a fight with him, and you know you are at fault, tell him that you are sorry. Make sure that you let him know how sorry you are ( you should be, honestly ). Try doing different things to make him happy. You can cook his favorite meal or buy him tickets for a sports concert.
2) Had a fight with him And He Is At Fault:
Don’t rush on him. Be calm. Try to explain him with rational reasoning. Most men will not listen to you when they are angry. So let them calm down. Rather go ahead and say that you are sorry about it all. Saying sorry doesn’t degrade your status. This will just calm him down. Once he’s calm put the issue in front of him and explain him what had gone wrong. Since he is chilled, he will listen patiently.
3) He came home late Last Night ( did not tell you anything about it) :
Let him go to sleep. He’s late which means he is probably tired. Morning is never a good time for any arguments. Let him go to work with a happy mood. Give him a call once to know what he wants to eat at home. He will come home with a happy mood. Serve him lunch and when he’s eaten half way tell him that you waited for him last night. Was everything ok? He will answer u just fine.
4) He is angry with you ( due to any issue ) :
Don’t rush on him. He is angry now and will get irritated if you keep saying sorry. Best way is to serve him with the best behavior, wear his favorite color, serve him meal in a very different and appetizing manner, when he is filling is stomach , his anger is coming out and this is exactly the time to talk to him.
5) He is keeping secrets from you ( you are doubtful or confirmed) :
If he is keeping secrets from you, if you are doubtful about it OR EVEN IF YOU ARE CONFIRMED don’t ask him anything about it. Its probably the lack of trust factor. BUILD THAT TRUST. Make him realize that no matter what, you will love him and will be with him. You may also tell him things like ” if there is anything you can count on me”, if he still keeps secrets then you have to work on making an even better trust. That’s just how it has to be.
6) He isn’t the guy that he used to be ( most female have such problems) :
Never take it for granted that HE IS NOT WHAT HE WAS. May be its because YOU ARE NOT THAT WOMAN YOU USED TO BE.
So give yourself a flash back. What changes have got into you. May b you are too busy in house work to give him enough time. You used to dress up so perfectly for every date, but after marriage even a lame dress will work.etc etc
GIVE THIS ALL A BREAK. Dress how you used to dress for him, give him time, tell him that you love him a lot, let him know that you think he still looks good and that you are lucky to have him.
After doing so u will realize HE IS THE SAME GUY THAT HE USED TO BE
I know you may be wondering that this is highly unacceptable but trust me its just a matter of patience and working the strings out in the correct time. Men are not that difficult to understand, you just have to find the correct key to you lock.
Don’t forget, If you have any other problem, You can always ask it out and we could find the solution to it.