What a tragedy it really is for a girl or a woman to have that one special person in the school, college or office whom you may be having serious crushes on for a long time but he seems clueless of it.
You give him clues, you give him gifts, you give him smiles, you give him every hint of your emotion and wait for the moment when he asks you on a date or a dance at Christmas party but all the wait and all the hints seems vague.
You should first know the 7 Things All Men Hate About Women and make sure that you don’t to them.
Here are 7 reasons why he does not like you back just the way you do and as much as we can, we will help you get through this.
1. He is committed, getting over a failed commitment (break up) or likes someone else.
He may be committed at the moment or he may like someone else of which you are not aware of. His heart beats for someone else and that’s why he is not getting himself involved in you even if he is catching your hints perfectly well.
You will just have to get over him and accept the bitter fact for what it really is.
He may have suffered a recent break up and is currently trying to get over it. In this case, it wont be easy for him to forget his past and start liking someone else immediately. Give him love and time.
2. You are not the type of girl he is looking for.
He wants a girl in high heels while you are the converse girl. He wants long beautiful hair while you are short bob cut. He wants jeans & t-shirt and you are frocks and minis.
Bottom line, you don’t fit into the picture of the kind of girl he wants in his life. Find out what he likes and what type of girl he is looking for. Do you cut in? Do you want to be the one for him?
3. You are his best friend or in his friend list.
A girl’s worst case scenario is when she is in the friend list of the person she likes badly. Moving from friend list to the girlfriend post becomes very hard because he may always take you as a friend and every hint you throw at him will be taken as a friendly gesture.
Even if he does like you, he may never express it to you because to him, he is in your friend list and he may fear that his expression of love may effect your friendship.
4. Relationship is not one of his current goals.
For the moment he may only be thinking about getting a good degree, getting a promotion, doing well at school/work or worried about getting through his financial needs. All these thoughts consume his mind which leaves no place for him to think about getting involved in a relationship as it is a responsibility in itself and he is not ready for it yet.
5. You are either trying too hard to show your love or trying not at all.
You may be trying too hard to get him. The good news here is that he clearly knows that you like him but the bad news is that you are creeping him out. Being around him all the time and doing things for him is making him uncomfortable around his friends/colleagues, so he is trying his best to stay away.
You may be not trying at all. You stare at him all day and you give him love filled sighs but as soon as he is near or looking, you pretend to be busy working or reading a book. The good news here is that you are giving a good chase but the bad news here is that he he thinks you ain’t interested in him.
Balance both situations.
6. You want a serious relationship while he is wants it casual.
Some men are too busy being the free guy with no strings attached to anyone. This does not mean that they are not looking for a girlfriend but they do not want their girlfriend to mess with their freedom. They do not liked to be asked where they have been all day or why they didn’t call or they have to spend an entire Sunday with you instead of soccer.
Be the girl he wants. Don’t annoy him. Let him know you are a person who loves to have her own space and loves to give others space as well.
7. You are always around him, ready to do anything for him and hence not a chase.
Men like women with standards. They love to chase such women to make it worthwhile. If you are being too available for him, he looses his interest in you and you are not a chase that he wants to be in.
Give him reasons and give him situations to chase you. If he calls you in for a coffee, don’t accept it instantly. Either tell him you’l have it later may be or if you fear that he may not ask you again then decide for a future day and confirm it.